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5 Steps to Finding Your Soulmate Now
By Tara Meyer-Robson | Submitted On March 26, 2010

Do you dream of finding your soulmate, but don't know how - or if - it will happen for you?

I was in the same spot a few years ago. I had a pattern of unfulfilling relationships filled with stress, fighting, jealousy, and even abuse, and was sick of repeating the same mistakes and never finding unconditional love.

So, I took some time to do the steps below, and - to my amazement - I found my soulmate (and now husband of over 10 years) almost magically.

Step #1: Leave any non-soulmate relationship now.

If you are in a relationship now that you know is not "the one," it's time to take the plunge and end it. One of the most powerful and important things I did was end my first engagement; not an easy decision, but one that I know was vital to eventually meeting my soulmate.

How do you know the person you are with is not your soulmate? Well, if you are reading this article, that is a pretty good indicator - if you thought you already found him or her, you wouldn't be here.

Another way to know is to listen to your gut instinct. Ask yourself, "Is this person my soulmate?" Really listen. Notice the response in your body - you will feel a "yes" or "no" answer.

If it is "no," you need to let him or her go. Now.

Step #2: Form a clear picture of what you want.

Have you ever really sat down and thought about what a soulmate would be for you? For each of us, it is a different answer - and it is critical that you have a clear picture of that person so that he or she may begin connecting with you now.

If you don't have a clear picture, it's like trying to hit a target while blind-folded - you don't have a very good chance of doing it. However, when you think through what you truly want in a relationship, that target comes easily into focus.

Step #3: Work on forgiving old wounds.

Have you been hurt in the past? When you think about old relationships, do you still feel the sting of pain or rejection like it was yesterday? If so, you need to do some work to forgive.

By carrying around old, unresolved wounds, the old pain ties you to the past and will also block you from opening yourself completely to another person. In addition, you may even repeat the same pattern, because that is what your mind is unconsciously set to seek.

None of that is going to help you find your soulmate. Think about the people you still need to forgive and work on doing so to free yourself from the past and find your soulmate.

Step #4: Relish aloneness.

If you are one of those people that hates being alone and jumps from one relationship to the next, please listen up! Being alone - and enjoying the experience - is critical to finding your soulmate.

When I broke my first engagement, I took the time to really find myself and do things that I enjoyed doing just because I felt like it. This is a truly freeing experience that helps you to build the self-respect and awareness you need in order to love unconditionally and be unconditionally loved.

In helping many people find their soulmates, this always seems to be the final ingredient that creates the perfect mindset to find your perfect match. So, go enjoy yourself by yourself!

Step #5: Wait with openness and expectation.

Waiting and wondering if your soulmate will ever show up is tough, no doubt. However, I have seen it time and time again: you must wait with the expectation that your soulmate is being connected to you in the present moment.

Instead of worrying, mentally prepare yourself for that moment when you meet. Reinforce your desire by going back to your list of soulmate qualities and reading them daily, making sure you have forgiven old hurts, and enjoying your time by yourself.

By taking these steps, you can know that you are in the perfect mindset to connect with your soulmate.

Tara Meyer-Robson is the award-winning author of The Flow: 40 Days to Total Life Transformation and the creator of The Flow Method, a personalized mind, body, and life transformation program that allows individuals to break negative patterns, heal from disease, and connect with the life of their dreams easily. Having married her soulmate, she is passionate about helping others get amazing relationships. Visit her on the web at http://www.howtogetamazingrelationships.com for more ways to find your soulmate and improve all your relationships now.

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