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5 Reasons Why You Can't Find Your Soulmate

By Elena V. Krasnova | Submitted On April 07, 2010

#1. You allow your past relationships affect future ones.

If you've dated a fair amount of people who weren't right for you, then you have probably developed a comfort zone for the wrong person. This makes it difficult to find your soulmate, since your subconscious mind creates a skewed picture of what a love partner should be like. So, stuck in this vicious circle, you go for people who are not right for you at all. You may even notice a pattern where all your past partners share similar fundamental flaws that were incompatible with you. To get out of this vicious circle, the first step is awareness. Take note of the unsuitable characteristics that all your past partners had in common. Focus on the opposite of those characteristics to attract a person that's right for you - a soulmate.

#2. You complain about the opposite sex.

This is a terrible habit we get into very early in life. Girls complain to their girlfriends about guys and guys do the same about girls. While this might help you get some things off your chest and fit in with the crowd, beware of the consequences! The more you complain about the opposite sex, the more you attract the things you complain about. They get programmed deeper and deeper into your subconscious mind every time you state a complaint. So, if you keep telling your girlfriends that men are afraid of commitment, don't be surprised if your next boyfriend takes six months to call it a relationship. And if you complain to your guy friends that women are always after money and status, you can be sure to end up with someone who will use you just fot that. If your friends love to grumble about the opposite sex, try not to participate in those discussions. Instead speak to people who have positive things to say, or concentrate on the positive qualities of the opposite sex. Think of all the men and women you've ever met. If you can think of at least one who doesn't fit the stereotypes you complain about, then you can be sure there are thousands (perhaps millions) of others and your soulmate is most likely among them.

#3. You accept settling for less.

It's a pity that millions of people in the world simply accept that it's very hard to find their soulmate, and they marry or stay with the wrong person only to not be alone. We develop this tendency in childhood, and it is passed down to us from generation to generation, from those who were unable to meet their perfect partner. So, just because our parents, grandparents, or other relatives didn't succeed in finding their soulmates, we automatically assume that we are destined to end up with the same results. THIS IS COMPLETELY FALSE! There are plenty of examples of people who have met their ideal match by having the right mindset. So, it is not difficult to find your soulmate. It doesn't just happen to the lucky few. And it is NOT OK to settle for less. It may be OK for the time being, but many years down the road you will deeply regret it when you look at your life partner and feel nothing but resentment or emptiness inside. So, don't accept less than your perfect partner! Next time you date someone and see that it's not the right person, move on until you find your soulmate.

#4. You don't believe in soulmates!

This one somewhat stems from the previous reason. Not only do people believe that it's hard to find their soulmate, but many believe it's impossible! They don't even believe that there is anyone in the world who is right for them at all. They say this out loud to the world, yet deep down they hope and wish that Mr./Mrs. Right will walk through the door and change their minds. Well, it just doesn't work like that! You have to believe in Mr./Mrs. Right first, and only then can you expect him/her to come into your life. Throw away the popular notion that 'seeing is believing'. Basic studies of the subconscious mind show that the opposite is actually true: 'believing is seeing'! If you don't believe it, it will never exist in your life. Period.

#5. You secretly don't want to find your soulmate.

Let's face it. Any relationship requires effort, and a soulmate one is no different. Don't get me wrong, it's extremely rewarding to put in that effort and it's a pleasure for both parties, but it's still effort, and for some of us effort equals pain. Remember: whatever you wish you had in your life is not there because you get some secret pleasure from not having it. This may sound absurd, and even offensive to some people, but when you really think about it, this starts to make sense. If you were with your soulmate right now, you could no longer get satisfaction from grumbling to your friends about the opposite sex. You wouldn't get the sympathy from family if you had an unsuccessful date. You would no longer be able to relate to your single friends, and even worse, they might begin to resent you for having found someone so great. You may not consciously think or even realize any of these things, but they may be subconscious roadblocks to finding your soulmate. To get past this, you need to be clear on the benefits of having a soulmate relationship and focus on them. Then you will be on the right path toward finding your soulmate.

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Elena Krasnova is an NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, who specializes in soulmate relationships. Neuro-Linguistic Programming Entails changing destructive thought patterns and un-serving beliefs at the level of the subconscious mind. Elena helps women all over the world find love and attract soulmate relationships of their dreams.

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