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 How to Get Your Ex Back - What Should You Do?

By Simon Carter | Submitted On February 21, 2009

It's going to be pretty painful after breaking up with someone you love so much. It's inevitable that you're going to feel very down, sad and depressed. Sometimes it seems you spend every waking moment thinking about how to get your ex back.

Do a simple search, and you're bound to find a plethora of information, with a whole host of different opinions, sometimes seemingly off opposing viewpoints. To focus in on something that's going to help you, the first thing you think about is establishing some common courtesy.

Try to read this article to the end in order to get the best benefit out of it.

First off, NEVER play mind games with people. This will only get people hurt and will probably end up worsening the situation. I only mention this because naturally people are ruled by their emotions rather than thinking their actions through thoroughly. Think the situation through before doing things based on your emotions. Remember, even if you do manage to get people to do what you want, this amounts to manipulation, and however good you feel now, I guarantee it won't last very long.

Mind games take many forms that you may not think of, for example, pretending you're in love with someone else or planning to be with another (to make your ex jealous) is a terrible thing to do, and can seriously backfire.

Don't be mean or vicious. Going back to controlling your emotions -- you probably feel like taking revenge of striking back for the pain it caused you. Think deeply about this -- imagine how much worse the situation could become by fighting fire with fire.

To come up with a solution to this saying, the only thing to fight fire with is water. Obviously this is a metaphor, but the meaning here is to defuse the situation instead of resorting to base instincts.

It's not a nice thing, especially when children are involved to disrespect the other person, no matter what he feel they have done to you. You don't want to poison the minds of others, as you may end up hurting them as well.

Keeping a calm demeanor about yourself and continuing on with your life will make you much more approachable, and when you have really calmed down, it will be a lot easier to discuss the situation in a civilized way.

This is only the very beginning of making amends and getting your relationship back together, and it is a good idea to seek further advice as to where to go next.

These are just the beginning steps when asking - what can I do to get my ex back [http://www.healing-a-broken-heart.com/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back/]? They are the initial techniques I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren't my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called The Magic Of Making Up [http://www.healing-a-broken-heart.com/magic-of-making-up/]. And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.

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