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 How to Get Your Ex Back Quickly

By Alden Smith | Submitted On February 05, 2009

There isn't an adult out there that at one time or another in their life haven't suffered a breakup of some kind. They try to live with the heartbreak and the trauma, and end up with a dysfunctional life. Many times, all they really want is to get their ex back. Instead, they try to move on.

You don't have to be a victim. If you want your ex back, there are certain things you can do to make it happen. It isn't easy, but it can be done.

Ninety percent of all breakups usually can be reversed. The first thing you must do is determine whether or not it is worth it to you. If the relationship was an abusive one, then maybe it is time to move on. If the relationship was a fairly good one, however, with only a few minor bumps in the road, then perhaps you should learn a strategy to help you get your ex back.

Any breakup means that you must do some soul searching. You need to determine exactly how the breakup happened. We all realize we can't go back into the past and change the reason for the breakup, but we can however, learn from these mistakes and make an attempt to grow from them.

Your breakup may have happened due to one specific event. Perhaps you exhibited behaviors that your ex just couldn't deal with anymore. Even though the warning signs were there, chances are good that you ignored them. Regardless of the situation, you must be exactly sure as to why the breakup occurred.

From everything that I have witnessed and read, people always seem to make the same mistakes when they are trying to reach reconciliation.

One of the things that I see happen a great deal is people trying to make their ex jealous. Maybe you are trying to show them that you have moved on. Perhaps you want them to see that you are still seen as desirable. Remember, however, that after a breakup you are not thinking correctly, and your emotions are playing with you in full force. When you are in this state of mind, you are not thinking clearly and are not making the right decisions. Trying to make your ex jealous only makes matters worse.

One of the best ways to accomplish reconciliation is to set up a meeting with your ex. You want to be doubly sure that you are not angry or upset when this meeting occurs. You have to ensure that you speak in a reasonable manner, do not make accusations, and not try to place blame on the other. If it takes you creating a script to know what to say when the meeting occurs, then do that. Nothing is foolish in matters of the heart.

One of the best ways there is to learn how to get your ex back is by taking the advice of others. An impartial observer is always the best resource. It doesn't have to be someone with a half-dozen letters after their name. Much better is someone that has experienced life to the max, who has experience in relationships, and knows what they're talking about.

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Alden Smith is a freelance writer that spent many years working with couples having relationship issues while participating in vocational rehab. He believes that winning back lost love is not easy, but can be accomplished if you have the necessary tools.

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