Make Your Ex Return Your Call - What to Do and What Not to Do

By Rhondi Shepherd | Submitted On December 16, 2008

Are you trying to get back with your ex, but can't get the opportunity to express yourself because they just won't call you back?

Do you wish there were words that would "magically" cause your ex to respond when you call? Well, listen to this. There are words that are just as good as "abracadabra" that can cause your ex to feel a yearning to call you back immediately-nearly casting a spell!

You say, "Why won't he call me back?" or "If she'd only return my call, she'd find out how much I really care." I hear this sort of thing all the time from my friends...and family, not to mention, I've been through it a few times myself. I'm going to let you in on a little secret that worked for me-just ask my husband!

You can find out more in "The Magic of Making Up," which lays out a more comprehensive strategy; you'll want to have an overall plan after using this tip to be sure you don't cause more damage to the relationship, in which case, it would've been better that they never returned your call at all.

At any rate, I will give you an answer to the question "How do I get my ex to at least call me back?" Let me first tell you a couple of things you shouldn't say and why messages like these almost never bear fruit!

1. "Honey, I've called over and over again; would you Pl-e-e-ease call me back; I REALLY need to talk to you."

2. "Baby, as soon as you hear this, make sure to give me a call...it's urgent!"
Can you see what's wrong with these types of statements? First of all, they make you seem "psychosomatic" or unstable. Next, the first statement makes you seem desperate, and people don't respect desperation or neediness, not to mention, you've just inflated their ego, and they want to hear you beg.

The second message just flat out says that you'll say anything to get their attention-they generally know there's no emergency to tend to; they've heard it all before! If there was an emergency, most people just say what it is and don't leave anything to chance.

Using Self Importance and Curiosity to Your Benefit

Now, are you ready to use your magic wand? Good, here's your "rabbit" and your "hat": Self Importance and Curiosity. Self Importance and Curiosity are two of the most effective areas to touch on when trying to get an ex's attention. When you put the two together, it's like saying, "TA DA-AH!" Here's something you can say that knocks out two birds with one stone and almost guarantees a call back, or text, or IM, or whatever.

"Hi, Honey, how are you? I just wanted to call and say thank you; I can't believe I'd forgotten how thoughtful you really are. Anyway, call me and we'll talk more. Thanks again." See! You've just created curiosity-he'll wonder, "what was that about; what did I do?" and also, he'll be feeling real good about himself for whatever it was-he'll want to get the credit in a more personal way-he'll call!

Whatever you do, make sure you've figured out what it is they did BEFORE you call. It could be something as small as you recognizing how they've helped to make you a better person or something like that.

But even more importantly . . . please have a fundamental plan in place like the Magic of Making Up [http://squidoo.com/makinguparticles/] system lays out for you. If you don't have your ducks in a row, you could make things worse.

The bottom line is . . . everything you do before, during, and after they call you back, is key to whether or not you get them back.
Get your plan together first!


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